I was talking with a male friend the other day and we discussed this new thing called Tinder.
I asked “Are you on Tinder?”
He replied “Of course mate”
He volunteered “Most women use it for an ego boost to be honest”
I asked “How’s that working for you?”
He replied “I have been on a couple dates”
He volunteered “It’s so incredibly shallow on there”
So I thought I’d Google it a bit, for the unaware:
Users sign up and install it (usually on their smartphone)
They set up some criteria (probably orientation and distance will be the important ones)
Then you are thrown pictures and you choose to swipe left to “not like” them and swipe right to “like them” (sounds like they should implement a swipe up option for “decide later”)
If a pair of people both “like” each other they are able to communicate.
So now I understand the whole shallow statement, there is no “unliking” people you have “liked” or vice versa.
There is this thing called you only swipe once #YOSO
And with most online dating sites you have to be aware of the ego chasers and serial daters..
A couple genuine examples of this from the internet are:
[–]annapie[🍰] 42 points 7 months ago
Mostly for an ego boost, in life you don’t know if people find you attractive or not, but on Tinder you get a pretty good idea.
[–]♂Honey-Badger 3 points 7 months ago
Yeah I’ve got the app and i have no intention of ever messaging anyone on it or replying to the messages I get. I just like seeing that some people find me attractive.
It seems like men play a numbers game and swipe yes to everyone in the hope that someone will respond and then decide later (after they have had a response) if they actually like the person. This is clearly hurtful and perpetuates the circle of hurt.
I understand the initial attraction to Tinder, you don’t have to make an effort on writing lots of words and making a decent profile, but you can reap the rewards of having a simple attraction.
So I think the target market is probably teenagers to mid to late 20 year olds, people who are mainly looking for hook-ups, dating or a bit of fun. Unfortunately it is also used by normal people who are looking for normal relationships.
It also fuels the growing need to judge people’s profiles via blog. That is most definitely a girl thing (I think girls tend to generally blog more than men), I think copying and posting peoples profiles is arrogant and rude and then criticizing them is unnecessary and hurtful.
How would you like it if you were on the internet and came across your profile and someone was saying bad things about you for everyone to read?
People who are looking for something a bit more real need to look elsewhere, where that is, I don’t really know… (Maybe Match.Com?)
So what about you? Have you got a Tinder account? What do you think of it?